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December 2006 BulletProof Success Coaching
This Is Stall-Out Time. Don't Do It!
  You Better Watch Out.....
Do you know the rest of that jingle? "You better watch out. You better not-------. No, the word here is not "pout". It is "stall".

This is stall-out time of year. This is the time when people lose momentum on the progress they have been making all year. Oh, I know: it's the holidays. We're all busy. Time is short. Money is short. Tempers are shorter. Energy is all used up and those projects you and your coach have been working on get shuffled to the back of the bus.

Keep the forward movement. Sure, for very good reasons you may slow down a bit. We do have other things in our lives besides work or personal goals. But keep on keeping on.

Five Tips To Prevent Stalling:

  1. Make an appointment with your coach and discuss how to keep the fires in your project(s) burning. Maybe not red-hot burning, but alive.
  2. Cast an eye over the last few months-- at least three, better six. Take stock of your progress and successes. Have a celebration with at least one other person to mark and acknowledge your successes to date. Do not trivialize them.
  3. Set a time with your coach to re-convene after the holidays to set new goals, strategies and time tables.
  4. Accept that this is a time of year that cannot be easily resisted. The culture itself, to say nothing of weather, family and friends almost demand we give attention to things other than our personal goals. It is a season to simply get through.
  5. As you have time and energy, journal about your dreams for the next phase of work and effort toward realizing your goals. Use these musing in the next meeting with your coach as the talking points to renew the embers of your passions and desires for success.


Fly lower and slower. But, keep flying.

The Tools of Leadership:Teachers of Leaders
John Heider   Who Teaches Leaders To Be Leaders?
They practiced meditation. Meditation made them good at seeing how things happen. Meditation grounded them in the infinite. That is why they sometimes appeared deep and inscrutable, sometimes even great.

Their leadership did not rest on technique or on theatrics, but on silence and on their ability to pay attention.

They moved with grace and awareness, and they were able to negotiate complex situations safely. They were considerate. They did no injury. They were courteous and quiet, like guests. They knew how to yield gracefully and how to be natural and inconspicuous.

They were as open and receptive and available as the valleys that lie among the hills.

They could clarify events for others, because they had done it for themselves. They could speak to the depths of another person, because they had known their own deeper conflicts and blocks.

Because they had given up selfishness, they could enhance others. They were not trying to become enlightened, because they were enlightened.

If The Leader Is Servant, What Does That Make The Followers?
Paul W. Anderson, Ph.D.   "Servant Leader" Has To Do With Success, Not Religion. fulcrum
We lead as we were lead. From what I can see, many of today’s corporate and public leaders followed the wrong kind of leaders. If a young manager watches and even gets mentored by the average business person in upper management, what do they learn to do when they become a leader? Expect 10 to 50 times as much in compensation as the average worker they lead? Display arrogant buck passing and blaming of others lower in rank? Take more than they give because they think they “have earned it?”

Perhaps this sounds critical. It is intended to remind leaders that when our young people attain leadership positions, they will be inclined to perpetuate leadership patterns that continue to demoralize work forces and rob their followers of personal integrity, that is unless they are shown otherwise.

Although it has religions undertones, “servant leader” is a pretty good alternative leadership style. In older Asian cultures, the leader was thought of as one who knew and used three pieces of information:

  1. How things work, that is, the natural laws of human and natural groups.
  2. How to live consciously in harmony with those natural laws.
  3. How to govern and educate others in accordance with these laws of human behavior.


Wise Asian people such as Lao Tzu did not call themselves religious but they advocated:

  • Compassion for all creatures,
  • Material simplicity and frugality, and
  • A sense of equality.


Leadership positions call for the practical application of these principles and in so doing some will say the leader has become “servant” to those he or she leads. The hope is people who follow you, wise servant leader, will eventually lead as they were lead. If you are a wise leader, your followers are those served. They are also learners of your example.

Now It's Your Turn
You've heard from me, had some of my thoughts. I'd like to hear from you. What are your concerns about coaching? Do you have questions about how coaching can help you and/or your company? What topics are of interest to you in future newsletters?
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